Snikket (which is run by a Prosody dev) is aiming to be the “one app” of XMPP. Their Android version is, IIRC, rebranded Conversations. Not sure on iOS/macOS but I think they have something there as well. And of course their server software is Prosody with a few extra plugins configured by default. All FOSS

Oh yeah, I briefly tried Prosody/XMPP (before a domain scalper stole a previous domain of mine because of a loophole with the TLD i chose) and it worked really well.

It’s a shame Matrix seems to be the current hot new thing when, with a bit of UX polish on all the apps, XMPP would work just as well if not even better.

If you’re thinking of hosting Matrix on that small of a server consider going with Conduit or Dendrite. They’re not as feature complete as Synapse but they’re substantially lighter.

No idea if Gotosocial supports relays or not, which is my choice of software so far. There seems to be some incompatiblilty between gup.pe and GTS (alpha software and all, expected issues obviously) so those are a no-go as well.

Following accounts are fine, but it’s really the creation part that causes issues. Unless you go full on reply guy, and I have at least some sliver of shame left in my body to not go full reply guy.

Rootful Podman & podman-compose. Waiting on the version of Podman that supports passt to hit Debian Bookworm or backports to attempt rootless. Deployed with Ansible except a few manual parts like creating the Postgres databases themselves.

No auto updates or notifications so far, as there seems to be a couple incompatibility issues left with Watchtower & Podman. Although since I switched CrowdSec to monitor journald instead of the Podman socket I don’t really have a reason to keep the daemon running, and I think that’s for the best.

With how unreliable tallying votes over federation is, we’re kinda get vote fuzzing “for free” right now.

My instance seems to be able to access yours. I assume it’s just the general Reddit migration straining the big servers. I know .world is struggling pretty heavily right now.

If this comment is federating then I started hosting my first service – Lemmy itself.