I mean if it’s just a private server for just the people he knows then I don’t get why this would be a concern, but if it is to mitigate family drama then rocket chat definitely has end-to-end encryption https://docs.rocket.chat/use-rocket.chat/workspace-administration/settings/e2e-encryption

Rocket chat is like slack but FOSS… haven’t tried it myself but it could be something

How expensive can “reputable” be. I got danhab99.xyz for like ¯⁠\⁠(⁠°⁠_⁠o⁠)⁠/⁠¯ $20/year?? Who cares

Vultr has some pretty cheap prices… I like them

I wrote my own thing. I didn’t understand how the standard options worked so I gave up.

https://github.com/danhab99/backup-brute