Right now I’ve been using Tailscale because it automatically adapts to my network conditions. If I’m at home, it’ll prioritize local network connection, but when I’m out and about, it’ll automatically beam a direct connection or use a relay.
One gripe I have about it is I can’t run it alongside my normal VPNs on my mobile devices. I have to choose between one or the other.
I have tried Cloudflare Tunnel before, but using it for streaming, like Jellyfin, is forbidden. There’s also the added latency and slowness to having to hop through multiple DCs to reach Cloudflare and back.
I have a bit of a mess that detects active processes and traffic and sends a signal to homeassistant which then informs me the same way it does when my garage door opens or whatever.
But mostly, the key is to put it into a system that will actually alert you. Like with any alert